For my PhD, I've been interviewing young people about their dating experiences in this modern digital world. It has been most educational. I have gotten some great tips from these kids, along with some shockers, but since I'm all old and wise I can tell the difference (unfortunately for them, I can't tell them the difference). It would be incredibly inappropriate of me to talk in detail about my interviews on here, so I won't. I'll just say that as a single woman who is currently on the dating scene, I am very much situated within my research! Often as I'm going over my interviews I am struck by how much relevance what the person is saying has to my own life. And sometimes it makes me want to scream!
Like the interview I am looking at today. The woman says that she is 'too polite' to tell someone she isn't interested in them, and so instead just ignores them. .... GAH!
When it comes to dating, I don't think there is anything that pisses me off more than this attitude that it is somehow impolite to tell someone you're not interested in them. No. It is fucking RUDE to not let them know. And this seems to be a social disease that is epidemic amongst women.
Why are people so afraid of hurting someone else's feelings? I understand that it is awkward to have the conversation with someone, but for fucks sake, give the other person some credit! This is just something that I find really inexcusable. Like, if I ruled the world, the punishment for not being upfront with someone about your feelings towards them would be to allow the other person to punch you in the face as hard as they could. And yes, I admit, I would be getting a few black eyes from this law, but I stand by it!
More hurt is caused by ignoring the issue than by addressing it directly. So if you think it's impolite to tell someone how you really feel, I say you're a wimp and watch out for justice fists.
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